Relating to a Spiritual Being while living in a material world is hard. With the Divine is inside each of us, we can reach new levels of understanding, growth and greatness.
We have to place the right things in the center of our lives. When we focus on those things and ignore the circumstances around us, we can avoid being thrown into a state of tilt.
When we look at what others do and have, it creates negativity and puts a lid on our potential. When we look inside and appreciate our blessings, we move from “why” to “how.”
Looking at negatives as opportunities to grow can create excitement. This will allow us to lose ourselves the important work we’re doing right now.
We can empower ourselves through perspective by knowing where the battle is being fought and keeping in mind that challenges are gifts to help us improve and grow.
“Getting back” at someone feels like re-balancing the scales of justice. But when only we are responsible for our thoughts and emotions, we can separate from negativity.
The importance of centering our actions and decisions on wisdom, and how to see both opportunities to give and moments of pain as having purpose.
Extreme ownership can lead to trying in vain to assert control over circumstance. If we instead take extreme ownership only of our feelings and actions, it empowers us.
Getting frustrated with others’ issues leads us to blaming. Our job is to grapple with, own and embrace challenges, and to fix ourselves.
Looking at the world through a lens of giving creates a feeling of abundance and blessing. Those feelings empower us to seek responsibilities and opportunities for giving.
Taking the step of being bigger, then waiting for the other is a trap. If we approach challenge as a custom-made virtual-reality “game,” we can win by rising above.
Consistently rising above negativity and behaving in a bigger way is real leadership and becomes the style that others will follow.
Friday Q&A: Ignoring negativity and being positive toward others frees from their drama and leaves us space to be givers.
Trying to project what’s in another person’s head is doomed to failure. If we keep our relationships simple, focused only on giving, they will be much more fulfilling.
We burn energy judging others based on facial expressions and body language. Most of the time, what’s really happening has nothing to do with us, and judging positively frees our minds.
Our minds are programmed for survival. When we re-program them to assume the best and focus on the positive, we rise above instinctual behavior and free ourselves from negativity.
Treasuring our thoughts is so important. By guarding our minds against external circumstances, we protect ourselves from others’ negativity.
Circumstance and our feelings are separate things. When we detach what happens to us from our emotions, we can react in an empowered, positive and productive way.
How to stay positive in a negative environment, how to journal more effectively by creating space for yourself, how to build good habits +1 step at a time, and more!
If our focus turns inward in the face of challenge, we feel alone. If we focus on others and just act, we re-connect and lift ourselves above our challenge.
When go above challenge by focusing on others instead of ourselves, that shift into giving mode triggers the soul and helps us infuse our challenge with meaning.
Engaging challenge with enthusiasm changes how we remember it later. In this way, we hack the narrative in our minds, allowing us to see and remember challenge in a positive light.
Judging the challenge in front of us puts us in a disempowered place. If we let go and accept that we don’t yet know the value of a challenge, we will be enriched in ways we cannot imagine.
When we assign meaning to our discomfort and purpose to our pain, it helps us shift our mindset from a feeling of suffering to one of strengthening.
Journaling helps us look at chunks of our day with an observer mentality. Also, how to give in a free way so if the recipient isn’t grateful, it doesn’t bother us.
Chunking, where we break the day down into small pieces and focus only on what’s right in front of us, helps us stop worrying about what we can’t control and increases our effectiveness.
If we don’t try to pre-judge a challenge, we can experience it in a positive way. Instead, if we prepare, we develop a commando mindset, enabling us to achieve greater success.
Positivity gets us in the frame of mind to properly approach challenge through excitement rather than a feeling of disempowerment
Our biases keep us from interpreting challenges accurately. If we use a gratitude lens, trusting that our challenges are good for us, we tap into our inner strength.
Going on the positive offensive not only brings more joy into our lives but changes our frame for how we deal with the whole day.
When we try to change our lives with new rituals, we will run into pitfalls along the way. Learn how to look for them and navigate around them.
By bringing more positivity into our minds, we play offense with positive feelings. This changes the context of anything negative that happens to us.
Negative emotions block our ability to tap into our personal power and the attribute of gratitude has the incredible power to overcome that.
What happens in life is mostly neutral. We give events their meaning, and gratitude is the filter through which we can enjoy the things we have without having to lose them first.
How we bring materialism into our lives and how, through gratitude, we can clean out that materialism so we can properly appreciate the things we have.
Happiness is based on our thoughts. While we can’t control our minds, we can control our attention and, thus, choose the thoughts on which we focus.
Forming a routine around journaling; choosing happiness in Auschwitz; dealing with setback; plus more answers to viewer questions.
The best approach to prepare for future challenge is to review how we acted in a previous moment of challenge. This helps us clarify our goals so when challenge comes again, we’re ready.
Happiness is a muscle. If we see challenges as workouts for it, we can approach those challenges from a more empowered place and grow more from them.
Outcome-based happiness conditions us to be mostly unhappy, which prevents us from being successful. Happiness leads to success, not the other way around.
Material accomplishments do not feed our need for happiness. The more we pursue them, the more we create neuro-connectors to keep us miserable.
We have to define our terms. This will help us understand what happiness is and is not, and it will also help us understand the traps that get in the way of us becoming happier people.
Chunking our rituals is a valuable process. When we break up a new ritual into chunks, the ritual is easier to adopt and helps us keep them long term.
Where is happiness derived from. Are we expecting reality to make us happy, or is it coming from a deeper place? Plus, how we can know what to do every day.
In a moving episode, Charlie talks about his late grandmother’s truthful advice of working on our happiness in everything we are doing. Plus, Q&A on dealing wth anxiety.
When we are able to align our goals with the person we want to be, it enables us to move in a positive direction toward those goals.
Change is based on positive goals. When we set our bar higher and reach for that bar, we can create greater motivation for ourselves. Plus, Q&A: Getting rid of all negative thoughts.
We take questions from our viewers and discuss how manifesting works, how to get started, and pushing past mental overload.
By allowing negative thoughts to pass, we can bring much-needed positivity to our minds. Plus, Q&A: How to discipline children with kindness.
When we shine the light on certain thoughts and darken others, we empower good thoughts and disempower negative ones. Plus, Daily Q&A: Learning how to adjust rituals after they form.
We are not our thoughts. By creating a distance from who we are and our thoughts, we can choose the ones we like and discard the rest. Plus, Daily Q&A: How do we make our rituals stick?
Our internal script shapes our belief in ourselves, which shapes what happens to us. Plus, Daily Q&A: The Benefits of Meditation; Building the Muscle of our Mind.
We all have negative scripts that play in our minds. These words sound like us but they’re not, and they hold us back from becoming as great as we can be.
We take questions from our viewers and discuss building deeper rituals, dealing with others, and goals that don’t satisfy our real needs.
By making statements of conviction, we can use speech to reprogram our minds, overriding previous neuroconnections and enabling us to perform in a more powerful way.
In this episode, we discuss negative speech, and how by speaking badly about others we diminish the strength of our words and cause harm to our-selves.
Practical suggestions for how to build up the strength in the words we use, and how, by doing this, we link our thoughts to our actions.
Maintaining the integrity of our speech is critical. We have to ask ourselves how much the words we say are a real bond or just air. When we say something and mean it, it’s as good as done.
We begin a new chapter discussing the faculty of speech and how important it is to our integrity. We can use it to grow in a powerful way.
Taking questions from our viewers. How we can make proactive rituals vs. reactive rituals work by creating quality time in our lives.
Is “hitting the wall” an indication of something we can’t do, or is it an internal mechanism to keep us comfortable? Knowing the difference can change whether we get past that wall.
We have a need to feel like “we can” because we want to feel comfortable in challenge. However, challenge is meant to be uncomfortable. We try to embrace tension, not seek to ease it.
When we frame our challenges through the lens of humility and ask ourselves, “why can’t I accomplish?,” we put ourselves in position to tap into the real strengths inside of us.
The work of rituals depends on whether we’re committed. It’s not about whether we would like to be great. We have to desire it and commit to it. Through that we find our path.
Where a ritual is placed will impact how it sticks. By placing a ritual in the right part of our day, we have a higher likelihood of making it a part of us.
How to link our engraved desires with our rituals. By finding our pleasures and allowing ourselves to indulge after our rituals, they become easier and stronger.
When our rituals are clear, concise and measurable, we tap into our innate need for mastery. Our gains are exciting because they are measurable.
When we create rituals properly, they are the best use of our will power. By using will power to strengthen our rituals, we can make long-lasting changes.
Will power is a limited resource, and if we don’t guard it carefully, we end up wasting it on things that don’t matter, leaving us very little when we want to use it to grow.
Will power is not enough for us to achieve our goals. We have to understand how our minds work and align our goals with our minds. Otherwise, we will end up with another failed resolution.
MVPRI — Minimum Viable Product – Rapid Iteration — is the mechanism by which companies grow. We can leverage this idea for our personal growth as well.
Why writing is such an incredible piece of mental coding. By articulating words, we are able to think more clearly and more concisely, and it allows us to change our brains.
When we search for truth it gets uncomfortable. By pushing through the “uncomfortability,” we uncover one of the most important traits, resilience.
The search for truth is the most important thing we can engage in. Otherwise we run the risk of allowing our cognitive bias to get in the way of what we can become.
There are two approaches to connection and significance: giving and taking. Giving creates independence and connects our value to who we are and what we do, giving us true autonomy.
We have to understand the difference between attention and connection. It all depends on if we are looking to take from those around us or to give.
Our self-image often creates distance between us and others, preventing us from connecting to them, and the solution is really understanding the value of vulnerability.
We connect through love by giving to and receiving attention from the other. Attention can be addicting, and it can lead us to live a life dedicated to preserving our image.
All human beings have a need for that feeling of connectedness. One of the great blockages to that feeling is in the creation of our own image.
We have to understand what we want to be. We can get closer to that understanding by looking at our visions and by questioning our motivations.
In every circumstance there is a giver and a taker. When we strive to always be the giver, we build out our true significance and put ourselves in the best position to get there the right way.
Changing the world begins with changing ourselves. In our search for true significance, we need to change how we act toward everything. Then we can make the biggest impact.
When we act in ways that are self-focused, we are drawn closer to the lower parts of our selves, but in switching our perspective, we feel differently as we connect to those around us.
Living our lives in a frame of mind of giving, not only taking, enables us to elevate ourselves and bring ourselves to achieve true significance.
If we run after symbols we never actually get them. True significance comes in value given; not through attention, and not through beating somebody else out.
Our physical needs are really deeper spiritual needs, and one of our core needs is significance. Understanding the root of this will help us figure out how to make the things we do in life more meaningful.
Needs are the things that are the core of who we are; wants are the shells we look to to satisfy our needs. By learning the distinction between needs and wants we become better.
One of the greatest risks we face in life is going after things that don’t align with who we are. By searching for our “Be,” we are able to walk with much greater purpose.
How to go back door on our own minds, meaning bypassing our conscious minds to go straight to our subconscious minds, which helps us to act in ways that we never thought possible.
Our beliefs hold us back from achieving greater things in our lives. By using the technique of acting “as if,” we can unlock a lot of the potential that’s already inside us.
Focusing on our beliefs and vision can change our perspective and how we feel. This helps us see what is otherwise invisible while changing how we perceive what’s in front of us now.
We spend too much time trying to change “reality,” but not enough time trying to change our perspective. When we shift our focus to our mind, we change … and our “reality” changes.
How we view the world, other people and ourselves determines whether we live our lives superficially or with meaning and purpose.
We need to question why we want what we want. Is it to gain social acceptance? To feel significant in other’s eyes ? Or is it an expression of our true essence? The difference is critical.
Fear, anxiety, nerves, etc., are not indicative of our capacity, they are the “border” we need to pass. By pushing our borders, we can access more of our innate potential.
How to build rituals by adding them to the structured parts of our day. By “extending the neighborhood,” we can best position new habits, ensuring they will stick.
The difference between exotelic and autotelic behavior and how by just changing our approach to what we are engaged in, we can find “flow,” optimizing our efforts and performance.
Setting a vision helps us overcome the unimportant urgent matters and increases our desire (and urgency) to pursue things that matter.
The real reason for a vision is to uncover our inner desires. A clear vision shows you what to do, but that’s just the surface. It also gives a window to who you are and what you want to be.
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