By bringing more positivity into our minds, we play offense with positive feelings. This changes the context of anything negative that happens to us.
Negative emotions block our ability to tap into our power and gratitude has the incredible power to overcome that.
What happens in life is mostly neutral. We give events their meaning, and gratitude is the filter through which we can enjoy the things we have without having to lose them first.
How we bring materialism into our lives and how, through gratitude, we can clean out that materialism so we can properly appreciate the things we have.
Happiness is based on our thoughts. While we can’t control our minds, we can control our attention and, thus, choose the thoughts on which we focus.
Forming a routine around journaling; choosing happiness in Auschwitz; dealing with setback; plus more answers to viewer questions.
The best approach to prepare for future challenge is to review how we acted in a previous moment of challenge. This helps us clarify our goals so when challenge comes again, we’re ready.
Happiness is a muscle. If we see challenges as workouts for it, we can approach those challenges from a more empowered place and grow more from them.
Outcome-based happiness conditions us to be mostly unhappy, which prevents us from being successful. Happiness leads to success, not the other way around.
Material accomplishments do not feed our need for happiness. The more we pursue them, the more we create neuro-connectors to keep us miserable.
We have to define our terms. This will help us understand what happiness is and is not, and it will also help us understand the traps that get in the way of us becoming happier people.
Chunking our rituals is a valuable process. When we break up a new ritual into chunks, the ritual is easier to adopt and helps us keep them long term.
Where is happiness derived from. Are we expecting reality to make us happy, or is it coming from a deeper place? Plus, how we can know what to do every day.
In a moving episode, Charlie talks about his late grandmother’s truthful advice of working on our happiness in everything we are doing. Plus, Q&A on dealing wth anxiety.
When we are able to align our goals with the person we want to be, it enables us to move in a positive direction toward those goals.
Change is based on positive goals. When we set our bar higher and reach for that bar, we can create greater motivation for ourselves. Plus, Q&A: Getting rid of all negative thoughts.
We take questions from our viewers and discuss how manifesting works, how to get started, and pushing past mental overload.
By allowing negative thoughts to pass, we can bring much-needed positivity to our minds. Plus, Q&A: How to discipline children with kindness.
When we shine the light on certain thoughts and darken others, we empower good thoughts and disempower negative ones. Plus, Daily Q&A: Learning how to adjust rituals after they form.
We are not our thoughts. By creating a distance from who we are and our thoughts, we can choose the ones we like and discard the rest. Plus, Daily Q&A: How do we make our rituals stick?
Our internal script shapes our belief in ourselves, which shapes what happens to us. Plus, Daily Q&A: The Benefits of Meditation; Building the Muscle of our Mind.
We all have negative scripts that play in our minds. These words sound like us but they’re not, and they hold us back from becoming as great as we can be.
We take questions from our viewers and discuss building deeper rituals, dealing with others, and goals that don’t satisfy our real needs.
By making statements of conviction, we can use speech to reprogram our minds, overriding previous neuroconnections and enabling us to perform in a more powerful way.
In this episode, we discuss negative speech, and how by speaking badly about others we diminish the strength of our words and cause harm to our-selves.
Practical suggestions for how to build up the strength in the words we use, and how, by doing this, we link our thoughts to our actions.
Maintaining the integrity of our speech is critical. We have to ask ourselves how much the words we say are a real bond or just air. When we say something and mean it, it’s as good as done.
We begin a new chapter discussing the faculty of speech and how important it is to our integrity. We can use it to grow in a powerful way.
Taking questions from our viewers. How we can make proactive rituals vs. reactive rituals work by creating quality time in our lives.
Is “hitting the wall” an indication of something we can’t do, or is it an internal mechanism to keep us comfortable? Knowing the difference can change whether we get past that wall.
We have a need to feel like “we can” because we want to feel comfortable in challenge. However, challenge is meant to be uncomfortable. We try to embrace tension, not seek to ease it.
When we frame our challenges through the lens of humility and ask ourselves, “why can’t I accomplish?,” we put ourselves in position to tap into the real strengths inside of us.
The work of rituals depends on whether we’re committed. It’s not about whether we would like to be great. We have to desire it and commit to it. Through that we find our path.
Where a ritual is placed will impact how it sticks. By placing a ritual in the right part of our day, we have a higher likelihood of making it a part of us.
How to link our engraved desires with our rituals. By finding our pleasures and allowing ourselves to indulge after our rituals, they become easier and stronger.
When our rituals are clear, concise and measurable, we tap into our innate need for mastery. Our gains are exciting because they are measurable.
When we create rituals properly, they are the best use of our will power. By using will power to strengthen our rituals, we can make long-lasting changes.
Will power is a limited resource, and if we don’t guard it carefully, we end up wasting it on things that don’t matter, leaving us very little when we want to use it to grow.
Will power is not enough for us to achieve our goals. We have to understand how our minds work and align our goals with our minds. Otherwise, we will end up with another failed resolution.
MVPRI — Minimum Viable Product – Rapid Iteration — is the mechanism by which companies grow. We can leverage this idea for our personal growth as well.
Why writing is such an incredible piece of mental coding. By articulating words, we are able to think more clearly and more concisely, and it allows us to change our brains.
When we search for truth it gets uncomfortable. By pushing through the “uncomfortability,” we uncover one of the most important traits, resilience.
The search for truth is the most important thing we can engage in. Otherwise we run the risk of allowing our cognitive bias to get in the way of what we can become.
There are two approaches to connection and significance: giving and taking. Giving creates independence and connects our value to who we are and what we do, giving us true autonomy.
We have to understand the difference between attention and connection. It all depends on if we are looking to take from those around us or to give.
Our self-image often creates distance between us and others, preventing us from connecting to them, and the solution is really understanding the value of vulnerability.
We connect through love by giving to and receiving attention from the other. Attention can be addicting, and it can lead us to live a life dedicated to preserving our image.
All human beings have a need for that feeling of connectedness. One of the great blockages to that feeling is in the creation of our own image.
We have to understand what we want to be. We can get closer to that understanding by looking at our visions and by questioning our motivations.
In every circumstance there is a giver and a taker. When we strive to always be the giver, we build out our true significance and put ourselves in the best position to get there the right way.
Changing the world begins with changing ourselves. In our search for true significance, we need to change how we act toward everything. Then we can make the biggest impact.
When we act in ways that are self-focused, we are drawn closer to the lower parts of our selves, but in switching our perspective, we feel differently as we connect to those around us.
Living our lives in a frame of mind of giving, not only taking, enables us to elevate ourselves and bring ourselves to achieve true significance.
If we run after symbols we never actually get them. True significance comes in value given; not through attention, and not through beating somebody else out.
Our physical needs are really deeper spiritual needs, and one of our core needs is significance. Understanding the root of this will help us figure out how to make the things we do in life more meaningful.
Needs are the things that are the core of who we are; wants are the shells we look to to satisfy our needs. By learning the distinction between needs and wants we become better.
One of the greatest risks we face in life is going after things that don’t align with who we are. By searching for our “Be,” we are able to walk with much greater purpose.
How to go back door on our own minds, meaning bypassing our conscious minds to go straight to our subconscious minds, which helps us to act in ways that we never thought possible.
Our beliefs hold us back from achieving greater things in our lives. By using the technique of acting “as if,” we can unlock a lot of the potential that’s already inside us.
Focusing on our beliefs and vision can change our perspective and how we feel. This helps us see what is otherwise invisible while changing how we perceive what’s in front of us now.
We spend too much time trying to change “reality,” but not enough time trying to change our perspective. When we shift our focus to our mind, we change … and our “reality” changes.
How we view the world, other people and ourselves determines whether we live our lives superficially or with meaning and purpose.
We need to question why we want what we want. Is it to gain social acceptance? To feel significant in other’s eyes ? Or is it an expression of our true essence? The difference is critical.
Fear, anxiety, nerves, etc., are not indicative of our capacity, they are the “border” we need to pass. By pushing our borders, we can access more of our innate potential.
How to build rituals by adding them to the structured parts of our day. By “extending the neighborhood,” we can best position new habits, ensuring they will stick.
The difference between exotelic and autotelic behavior and how by just changing our approach to what we are engaged in, we can find “flow,” optimizing our efforts and performance.
Setting a vision helps us overcome the unimportant urgent matters and increases our desire (and urgency) to pursue things that matter.
The real reason for a vision is to uncover our inner desires. A clear vision shows you what to do, but that’s just the surface. It also gives a window to who you are and what you want to be.
As we train ourselves to stay focused, we can better cross over from task to task giving each matter more of our attention. With increased attention we enhance our results in everything we do.
By learning how to “cross over” and switch-task from ritual to ritual, we can increase the quality of our efforts, which will lead to greater results.
Settling for “good enough” is not a step in the path to greatness, it’s a trap that blocks us from achieving it. If our goals are not clear, we end up settling.
Visions need to be specific and by using the exercise of the “Ideal Day” we can better articulate what we want so we can craft rituals to get there.
Our impatience and our need for constant stimulation, is preventing us from enhancing our lives qualitatively. The faster we go, the more we stay the same.
How to “round out” our neuro-connections through a process called Deliberate Practice. Small consistent improvements are how we align our vision with our minds.
By recognizing that we are all works in progress, by getting comfortable in “cognitive tension,” we look for more feedback and adapt quicker and better to the future.
How to use visualization and willpower to design rituals. By being proactive, we can change our daily routines and enhance our lives.
One of the great techniques used by successful people is called Designing Rituals. By allocating our willpower to new rituals, we enable our brain to help us achieve our goals.
Willpower: What it is, what it’s not and how to leverage our willpower in the most effective way so we can live our most awesome lives.
Delving further into the 1-percent rule. The best way to use our incredible, supercomputer brains is when we look for ways to move +1 every day.
Paying tribute to our moms on Mothers’ Day and discussing the undervalued power of working to make ourselves 1-percent better every day.
We continue exploring how our mind works and discuss tactics used by elite forces to leverage visualization for growth.
How our minds take in new information and how, by pretending to be someone else, we can hack our minds to grow in ways that would otherwise be impossible.
The difference between acting from analysis and instincts. Greatness comes from building better instincts and habituating a higher standard of action.
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