Today started with an incredible speech from Ruchi, our Trip Leader/primary educator.
She spoke to us about the value or principal of peace and wholeness in the home. And how it’s the mother and woman who is primarily in charge of this.
She spoke about the soul and how two souls can be knit to together over different lifetimes. How the Jewish people believe in old souls, and of course, I believe in this. This concept is called Shalom Bayit.
She spoke of emotional bonding, and how these two souls can be knit together as best friends, lover, arched enemies, and they can be there to teach each other, to grow together. It’s not always as a typical husband and wife relationship.
We learned that:
Love is a choice.
I, of course, believe this. You can be a positive person. Choose to see the good. To choose to look for the good, the light, the positive. Or to look for the negative. I try to do this and of course, can always improve in this area.
Do show – Don’t tell
Actions speak louder than words pretty much. If you show how you feel, you don’t have to say it, but of course, you should also. But you can say it and not show it. You can’t say “I love you” but not act in a loving way. You can’t say, “I’m so nice,” and not behave kindly.
She spoke of a marriage is like a cup, sitting in a bowl (your immediate family). If you fill up your cup with love and attention, it will overflow into your family with goodness, that it’s not that your kids should come before your husband but the other way. And we shouldn’t make our husbands feel last. I’m guilty of this. And I need to work harder on this. It seems most of us are in the room need to…why is that?? Ask yourself what you’ll do the bring us closer/further Intimacy both physically and emotionally, and not prioritizing efficiency first.
I wrote about Brachas and how I needed to be more like that. I realize how I used to embody that more. Why is that? Why was I freer when I was younger? When I was away in Iceland, I spoke to my husband about working on that. Today has reinforced that.
I need to let loose and be softer with my husband and my kids, especially with my two older kids.
Livingston, New Jersey